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Sasha ([personal profile] sashajwolf) wrote2016-05-17 08:04 am
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PSA: Spoon shortage

If I seem a bit distracted at the moment or don't reply to things I normally would, this is why:

We learned last week that my mother has a pancreatic tumour, suspected to be malignant, that is also pressing on her gallbladder and colon and causing a variety of problems as a result. She is having a fairly major operation today to try to remove it, following which the lab will confirm whether it really is malignant or not. Even if it is, the doctors are hopeful that she may have caught it early enough not to need chemo, and she really could not be in better hands than in the German health system, but this is obviously a scary time for her and for the family. She will be in hospital for 2-3 weeks and then in a rehab clinic for an undetermined period. She has asked that, rather than visiting now when all I can do is sit by her bedside, I go to stay with her for a while when she comes out of rehab and will need support with shopping, cleaning etc while she finishes convalescing. So I will be doing that. But meanwhile, this is taking up pretty much all my emotional processing spoons. I still want to be supportive of my friends who are also going through hard stuff at the moment, but getting the words out is much more difficult and takes longer than usual - so if I don't reply to things, please know that it's not because I don't care.
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[personal profile] el_staplador 2016-05-17 08:35 am (UTC)(link)
Thinking of you - hope the news is good.
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[personal profile] tree_and_leaf 2016-05-17 10:32 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear that. Will be thinking of you and hoping for good news.

[personal profile] techiebabe 2016-05-17 12:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, I am sorry to hear that. I hope everything goes as well as possible today, and will be thinking of you.
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[personal profile] arlie 2016-05-17 03:28 pm (UTC)(link)
Ouch! I'm sorrt to hear that. You have my sympathy, and all the virtual hugs you want. I hope it proves non-malignant, and your mom recovers as fast and comfortably as possible.
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[personal profile] lovingboth 2016-05-17 06:24 pm (UTC)(link)
What they said.
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[personal profile] andrewducker 2016-05-17 06:33 pm (UTC)(link)
*huge wodges of sympathy*

I hope that things go as well as they can.
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[personal profile] ephemera 2016-05-17 06:46 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry - I hope that all goes well with the op, and the news is the best that it can be.
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[personal profile] white_hart 2016-05-18 08:04 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm really sorry to hear that - sending all good wishes.